Navigating Life Changes
One of my favourite topics to help a client navigate through, is a life transition or change. This can be anything from moving homes, to changing jobs, entering or leaving a romantic relationship, or welcoming a new thought pattern into your life.
Personally, I've also been contemplating change a lot recently with all of the major changes going on in my life. As my career continues to evolve and grow, I move into the role of "wife" - defining it for myself, and I continue to learn more about myself, it felt right to share my reflections on change with you today!
Change is such an interesting topic and one that people seem to have a lot of varying thoughts and emotions about. Why not reflect right now on what change means to you...feel free to pull out your journal or simply pause for a #mindfulmoment to ponder the following:
What does change mean to me (define this word)?
How do I relate to change and is this working for me? (hint, hint: if not, then it's time to try out a new pattern with change)
What emotions do I experience when I think about change or when I experience a life change?
Honestly answering these questions will help you understand some of your patterns around change. Then you can decide if these patterns are helping you navigate your life journey or are in need of tweaking.
If you find yourself in the later category then consider some of my tips and tools for navigating your life transitions more gracefully!
A simple way to shift your thoughts about change is to use different words to describe change. Perhaps you're using phrases like "Ugh, I hate change!" or "Man, change can be so hard!" Well, what you speak reflects what you're thinking and also draws upon an emotional response. SO try out some new words and phrases around change. Simply experiment with mantras like, "I easily navigate through change", and "I find joy in the process of change". AND if that feels too far fetched for you, then simply tone down the super emotionally charged words like "hate, hard, etc." and consider using more neutral words.
Set yourself up for successful change by having a plan. Use the help of a friend, coach, or therapist to map out what it is that you logistically need to accomplish during this change AND some of the potential emotional needs that you might have. Adjust your schedule and give yourself more time during this transition. Maybe you need flex time to account for unexpected challenges or you simply need extra time for sleep! Do your best to meet this life change head on and create a helpful strategy for yourself.
Hold yourself accountable by asking for help! When you ask for help from your trustworthy peeps then you're better able to prepare your support network for this coming change. By advocating for yourself and asking for help you're sure to create wiggle room for yourself during this time.
Adopt an attitude of self-compassion and gentleness. The way that you treat yourself during this time is especially important, as you might already be feeling vulnerable. So the quality of the thoughts you're thinking, your self-talk, and your daily choices all contribute to your overall well being. Treat yourself with as much gentleness as you can muster; after all you are going through a major change!!
Whatever changes that you might be experiencing right now in your life and however you might be meeting these changes, just remember to always do your best. That way you can look yourself in the mirror and feel proud about how you handled this situation.
Take a deep breathe.
And know that you're doing your best (even by showing up for yourself and reading this blog post!)
If you're looking for additional support through any of your life transitions then consider emailing me to arrange a phone call and session.
Sending you blessings through all of your life changes,